Creating memories is what we wedding photographers do, however I believe its so much more than that. If you have ever met me at a wedding fair or even read a little of my social media or web site, you will hear me talk a lot about the importance of the relationships I build with my wedding couples.
I do harp on a lot about liking your wedding photographer and building a good relationship. Why? well let me tell you a story of one of my wedding couples maybe this will help ..
Our first meeting
Wedding fairs are a great place to meet wedding professionals. It was at the knebworth Barns wedding fair that I first met Jasmine & Alon. Now usually you only get a short amount of time to chat, but something instantly clicked with us. We talked for quite some time and both Jasmine & Alon opened up to me regarding their wedding.
Planning A Wedding
Every couple has their pain points when planning a wedding. Listening to Jasmine talk about her mum and how she wouldn’t be at her wedding really did hit me hard. I didn’t ask any questions I just listened. When Jasmine felt ready she explained why her mum wasn’t going to be at her wedding, and I almost cried when she talked about her mum.
Sadly Jasmines mum has advanced Alzheimer’s which would prohibit her from attending the wedding.
I know it took a lot of courage for Jasmine to open up to me (she had spoken to lots of photographers and never mentioned her mum to anyone of them). I think this was the first moment that both Jasmine and Alon began to consider me as their wedding photographer.
On further conversation Jasmine mentioned she was considering visiting her mum on the morning of her wedding. To me it was a natural reaction to offer photographing Jasmine and her mum together. I am not sure if Jasmine and Alon had considered this but Jasmines face lit up with my suggestion.
Now anyone who has any knowledge of Alzheimer’s will know this is a very unpredictable condition. We didn’t actually know till the morning of the wedding when Jasmine walked into her parents home whether or not her mum would able to see us.
There was great Joy when Jasmine got to her parents house and her mum was in great spirits and Jasmine got to spend some precious time with her mum. Jasmine had some of the details she was going to wear at her wedding and so enjoyed showing these to her mum. A moment we will never forget was when Jasmine showed her mum the veil she would be wearing. The veil was actually one Jasmine was borrowing from her aunt who wore it when she married Jasmines mums brother. There was a moment when we saw Jasmines mums face lit up with great joy at touching and seeing it. I like to believe that for a moment this triggered a lovely memory for Jasmines mum.
Jasmine’s mum hadn’t wore her engagement ring for some years but for the day of Jasmine’s wedding she wore it. This is the beautiful moment Jasmine put her mums engagement ring on.
Our visit may have only been a short one and I know the situation could have been so different. But having time with her mum on her wedding day was so important to Jasmine. For me it was testament to my belief that choosing a wedding photographer for your wedding is so much more than their ability to take beautiful photos.